Today was traumatic-for Cavett and for me. It was the first day of first grade tears.
When I picked Cavett up from school today, I was on the phone with my sister (who I haven't talked to in a while) and wasn't able to talk immediately, but he was very quiet and respectful. As soon as we got home, he burst into tears saying that several kids were making fun of his shirt, saying that he had "dirt on his shirt." It broke my heart to see him cry and talk about how hurt he was. Why do kids have to be mean and where do they learn it?
So, the boys wore the shirts today and Cavett was very proud of his. Too bad he "will never wear it to school again."
We spoke through the tears and I consoled as best as I could telling him that he didn't ever have to wear it to school again and that this was called being "bullied." We talked about different ways to address the situation-telling the teacher, saying "so." and leaving it at that, and also turning it back on the kid and showering him with kindness saying things like, "your shirt is really cool, I like it!"
"Do not judge others, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn others, or it will all come back against you. Forgive others, and you will be forgiven." Luke 6:37
"Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others." Colossions 3:13
"But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins." Matthew 6:15
"Instead be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you." Ephesians 4:32
"But when you are praying, first forgive anyone you are holding a grudge against, so that your Father in heaven will forgive your sins too." Mark 11:25
We talked out the big words and he understood that he makes mistakes too and that God forgives him, and in return he must forgive others. It's a hard thing to do, forgiveness. It's a humbling thing, but a character trait absolutely worth working toward.
Tomorrow is a new day with a forgiving heart, loving others. Hopefully, no tears.
"Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins." I Peter 4:8